How many of us have great intention of staying in touch with dear friends and sometimes years go by without any contact.The amazing thing about it is if the bond is complete and in tact when you separate you will connect and start where you left off no matter the length of time.
I have an early childhood bestie that I still get in touch with not often but because we grew up together it is always immediate and comfortable.
Last week I finally called a couple friend of ours that I hadnt talked to in almost two years.And it was wonderful right away.....except they moved to Arizona from here in Michigan and I had no idea!She felt bad about not calling but didnt need to.We all do it ...........If I hear another person tell me how busy they are and go on about it,..........its so indulgent and selfish.
Almost everyone is "busy"and some of us doing things we really dont enjoy but endure.So what!
If you want to make time you will.And Im not great at it but I am happy I still can get it together to eventually stay in touch with people that I think of all the time.
People enrich our lives.............some we cant understand.Thats different.
But the ones who have impacted our lives float around and speak to us from time to time and we say "god I love them....why havent I picked up a phone or simply shot off a line?"
Its stupid lazy........phone sitting there.......computer in front of you......you miss them........but.................
we are all guilty!The dumbest part of all is that when we do connect it heals,and then we remember how much they mean to us........and then we dont call or write till we are absolutely starved for someone to understand whats going on and they are alway there no matter how far.
Love doesnt hold people to being responsible for not getting in touch.Love says I love you no matter where you are what your doing or how 'busy"you are.
If you hesitate because its been so long that your afraid.........stop it!The people you are connected to by deep love and history will always be happy to hear from you.........and if they arnt .......no one that loves you is going to blame you for the lapse and thats really the end of it!
Special thought to Patty Lou for inspiring this blog and to Billy Koza ........for amazing memories.
Sunday, August 10, 2014
Sunday, August 3, 2014
Sorry
I was so excited to get this blog up and running and then it crashes 2 posts after I get it back ,Im not super adept at any of the computer stuff,but this has been a bad few months with tech problems.
Ive been thinking about forgiveness very much lately .
Many of us hold on to deep wounds received through growing up in unsettling households .
It makes it difficult for people to know what to hold on to and what to let go.
I think we would be best off if we could forgive it and go on.In my case I was criticized very often on my appearance and my off the cuff attitude that I was going to play and sing for a living did not go over well with one of my parents......the other couldnt say enough about my talents and ability.
When we say forgive I think people attach way to much to what it means.In this case I have been thinking about what May a Angelou said about it.It doesnt mean sorting it all out and and making nice,Its just plain let it go and move on.
I think I have written about seeing your parents as "people"(which doesnt happen at all unless you really look").
We fall for what our parents say about us no matter what because it starts when we are so new to the world and if care is not taken to speak properly in front of chidren and hatefulness between parents is displayed daily ......sorry but huge damage is done.I see parents doing it it all the time.Remember that children take everything to heart because in a perfect world they are new fresh shining unspoiled beings.And if you have an artistic kid like I was the hurt goes deeper as I can remember my parents fighting and knowing what they needed to do but they just made it an ego match most times.Everyone wants to hurt more than the next guy in our crowd ,like a competition sometimes.
So much of this is people not feeling they are seen and unimportant.
As you go through your day realize how much joy you can have by taking a moment to say something nice to the waitress,the cashier,etc.It makes their day but will increase your joy and love twofold.
Love today, right this minute, its all you have literally.
Ive been thinking about forgiveness very much lately .
Many of us hold on to deep wounds received through growing up in unsettling households .
It makes it difficult for people to know what to hold on to and what to let go.
I think we would be best off if we could forgive it and go on.In my case I was criticized very often on my appearance and my off the cuff attitude that I was going to play and sing for a living did not go over well with one of my parents......the other couldnt say enough about my talents and ability.
When we say forgive I think people attach way to much to what it means.In this case I have been thinking about what May a Angelou said about it.It doesnt mean sorting it all out and and making nice,Its just plain let it go and move on.
I think I have written about seeing your parents as "people"(which doesnt happen at all unless you really look").
We fall for what our parents say about us no matter what because it starts when we are so new to the world and if care is not taken to speak properly in front of chidren and hatefulness between parents is displayed daily ......sorry but huge damage is done.I see parents doing it it all the time.Remember that children take everything to heart because in a perfect world they are new fresh shining unspoiled beings.And if you have an artistic kid like I was the hurt goes deeper as I can remember my parents fighting and knowing what they needed to do but they just made it an ego match most times.Everyone wants to hurt more than the next guy in our crowd ,like a competition sometimes.
So much of this is people not feeling they are seen and unimportant.
As you go through your day realize how much joy you can have by taking a moment to say something nice to the waitress,the cashier,etc.It makes their day but will increase your joy and love twofold.
Love today, right this minute, its all you have literally.
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