I originally quit 26 years ago .......I have had minor slips as they call them......but I have been sober for the better part of 26 years
But Im not going to discuss that part today.
The drinking began in my chidhood home at about 10 years old.It was odd because on occasion my father would come home drunk and things were bound to get really ugly.
By that time my folks disliked each other heartily........so usually there would be a picking and circling kind of nasty and then the screaming would start full tilt!
When I think about it now I am absolutely astounded that 2 people of such good intention could allow such horror...................it happens all the time to so many and we ignore it and say its okay by our silence.
Drunks have a way of controling the room even though they themselves are not in control.Husbands,wifes and children get that sick, awful ,embarassing,I dont know what to do feeling.
Children should not be around drinking at all at any time .Ive come to this conclusion after the watching of my nieces (sisters children)and the beauty of living and being raised in a sober house as opposed to my sister and I plus many kids in extended family that are "given the gift" by drunken adult relatives(its bad).
On top of that,as an adult I have become increasingly angry (and should be)with my freinds and family who have fallen head first into their ever present drink.I have always been unafraid to do what I have to, to have some kind of calm run through me.So if an event comes up where I know I dont belong I just simply dont go.But kids have no choice ,they get to go wherever mom and dad decide to and watch everything they do and have the lifelong impression of fear and anxiety take up valueable space in an unblemished brain.
Alcohol is our biggest drug problem.......why do we keep accepting it like its a small mistake?It clearly has killed families in so many ways....the list of utter crap it produces is to long to put down.
I am asking grown up people to look at what they are doing......more so the sober people in a drunken partner relationship.......remove children and family from your toxic personal issues with your partner and do every single thing there is to keep children from seeing the fear and roadblocks it sets up.
I realize this is a lot to ask as people are in the behavior without knowing it............yes,it puts us in a very vulnerable place when we decide to do something that will cause a stir in the family......but every simmering pan in lfe has to be stirred lest it scorches the pan for life.Hurry........its burning.
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