I have written a lot about taking care of elders and sick people(my mother forages on ,the last 3 months were even a bit scary for this seasoned veteran)My mother in law has been sick too(lung surgery...good news but a loong recovery.
Ive said before ,pay or not ,it is one of my best gifts....calm and kindness in frightening,life events.I do my crying and rid myself of bad later.
Since I can cook it helps tremendously to prepare meals for women of that generation who worry about dinner even when they cant move!Im certain it is the 60s housewife syndrome that makes them feel responsible for everything!My 82 yr old mother still says "I gotta get home and start dinner"To which I say why dont you go home and have your husband start the car and take you to dinner!Which they do a lot.But what Im saying is if something this simple helps.....great,and it is so easy for me to throw together healthy meals really fast.......its just years of doing it for hundreds, so doing for two is a cinch!
And I have time ,the work search for working class 55 year olds is a continual thorn in my side.I need so little its just so frustrating.
So doing for others takes away that ugh feeling I have about my situation and turns it in to what really matters in the first place.
I have a wonderful life.I have a home,a wife I adore,I can let these things float off when my ego nags and says "your not enough".If we get anything out of this life let it be that by the end we are able to say I did the very best I could and Im content.
Compassion for others is key ,I dont mean volunteering for a cause as much as looking around your close circle and seeing the pain that people are living through or a problem they are struggling with.Its really very easy and its even easier to say "are you okay?..."whats happening?"......"tell me".
Its getting lonelier all the time as media texts and buzzes and twitters and bells and whistles.
There is nothing more powerful than "Im here,I love you".Try it.
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